Why is that? Everyone tells us not to. It is a constant itch, I guess. I am, of course, speaking in a more metaphorical sense, then about an actual scab. When ever we move past a stage in our life or choose to leave a part of our life, there seems to be a need to tear that part down. Maybe it is a sense of self-validation. “I am better person now, because I broke free from this “. Whether we leave a job, or a group of friends, or a religious organization, it seems that we have to tear that group down, to make our decision to leave more noble, or even just to convince ourselves we made the right choice.
That’s not necessarily a bad thing, I guess, as long as no one gets hurt. (cliche, but whatever) The problem though, is that someone always gets hurt. Sometimes we begin to feel so noble about our decisions that we feel it is our duty to make sure that everyone knows how horrible something is so that they too can escape. In some cases, that is a definite responsibility, in other cases, it is a selfish and arrogant thing to do, and in most cases, it just doesn’t matter. As adults we have the right to make choices for ourselves, good – bad – indifferent. While you are not required to accept the choices that we make, you are required to respect them, just as others are required to respect yours, even if acceptance is too difficult.
I guess what I am getting at, is that if your going to leave, then leave. Good luck & God bless. Now let it go. If you are in any situation that you can’t handle, get out! Whether that be a job, a religion, a relationship, whatever. After you have gone though, don’t continue to dredge up the feelings on a daily basis so that there is nothing left but hatred and bitterness. If you are going to remember anything about the past focus on the positives. Take the good from any situation and cling to that.
People claim that our experiences shape us and determine the type of person that we will be. I wholeheartedly agree with that, BUT – we can take what we want from every experience – positive or negative, and that is what will mold us.
Personally, I can accept any decision someone makes. Freewill is what defines us as more then the animal creation.
This is just my opinion though, take it for what you will.