Archive for January, 2007

The easy way?

Saturday, January 27th, 2007

So the other day, a work associate told me that Laura and I are having kids “the easy way”.. What made the statement more humorous to me is that this was a man… I thought to myself, “In what way is conception and pregnancy hard for you ?” Now if a woman had said it to me, then I may not have thought too much about it.

However, let me state for the record that adoption is NOT the easy way to have kids. In fact, it is my belief that this is the most difficult emotionally draining process that I have ever gone through.

When we decided to start the adoption process, the standard wait time was 6 months from LID to Referral. Now, let’s for one moment pretend that a 6 month wait time was not a thing of the past. Even with a short 6 month wait, you are looking at about 6 – 9 months of paper chasing BEFORE you can even think about sending in your paper work, so a “normal” China adoption will take at least 12 months. Pregnancy is a 9 month (generally) process.

Now, believe me, I am not saying that pregnancy is easy either. My point is that since both process are intensive and both process take a long time, and both processes can wreck all sorts of emotional turmoil on the prospective parents, couldn’t we all just say that both are endeavors of love that take thier toll, and make the day that you get your child that much more special?

This comment is made all the more difficult to hear since we do not have a 6 month wait.. No good reader, we are, as of today, officially 7 months into our wait. So does that mean that we will hear any day now about our child? No. Right now the CCAA has been able to process up to September 27, 2005. We are June 27,2006. That means there are another 9 months ahead of us, full of people who are also waiting for a child. So we are anticipating at least another 12 – 18 months before we can even think about a referral.

This is all part of the process though, hurry up and file, and then wait… and wait… and wait… We know that the CCAA is doing thier best to meet the needs of an incredible increase in the number of dossiers being sent over, and so we patiently await the time we will be united with our daughter … Is it easy? NO… It is worth it.. ABSOLUTELY…

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Pictures … as promised

Tuesday, January 23rd, 2007

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First is Laura and I on the second formal night.  My hand looks huge in this picture… it is not that big.. LOL

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This is Laura’s Turtle… so small and cute…

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They had a race to see which turtle would make it to the ocean first… Laura’s didn’t win, but we thought he had a better chance of survival since he seemed to be the only one that knew what he was supposed to do when he got to the water…

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Side view of the boat we were on… These things are really really big..

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And finally the Joseph Filipow Trio.. My brother, who took all the above pictures (except the formal shot), did this on the boat for them..

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So much fun… Finally recovered.

Tuesday, January 23rd, 2007

Well, my grand plan of blogging the cruise died a quick death… LOL  We just were having too much fun, and while Carnival’s Wi-Fi access is great on the boat, the speed of the connection leaves MUCH to be desired.

So Anyway, we had a blast.  Acapulco was just OK, but we never expect much from that port.  Acapulco is a great place if you love getting completely trashed and going from bar to bar finding excitement, and that is really not our scene.  We are way too laid back for that.  So we wandered around the city for awhile and found this really nice outdoor restaurant and had some lunch.. They were mostly a seafood joint, but there were very few tourists in the place, always a good sign, and we got stared at for some time. :)   However we did get sat next to Andres Garcia who is apparently very famous in Mexico, and my brother recognized him… I had no idea, but it will still cool..

The next day we were off to Zihuatanejo / Ixtapa.  They are one port, but two cities.  This is BY FAR our favorite port.  For a few reasons.  The shopping here is much better and there are A LOT less of the street people who are constantly trying to sell you chiclets and other sundries… The shopping is more along the line of handcrafts and leather, and clothing as well.  Acapulco is all silver and jewelry shops.. Pass.   The other great thing about this stop was Bandido’s.  This is a great little restaurant that we always go to when we are in town.  They have a patio dining area, and flat screens for the game, and the best mexican food.  This time I even got a shirt. ;)   I think the best part about this port is a small little beach, which we didn’t get to this time, that you have to take a boat to get to.. We stopped there the last time and just sat on the beach restaurant and drank 50 cent cervasas and ate the finest guacamole you have ever tasted…  This time we spent soo much time wandering the city that we were all just to tired to go over there, so I guess we will have to wait till next time.

We weren’t really expecting anything from Manzanillo this time either, since the last time was a major dissapointment.  Manzanillo is another excursion port.  In other words, if you don’t have excursion on this port, stay on the boat… The downtown is filthy and the shopping is sad and pathetic.  So we were not planning to get off the boat, but Laura want to do an excursion called “The Cuyutlan Turtle Experience”.  I HIGHLY recommend this tour… It was really really cool.  You get driven out to this turtle sanctuary in Cuyutlan and they give you a small education on the sea turtles, which ones are endangored and which ones aren’t, and then show you where they are incubating and hatching sea turtles.  You also get to see several different varieties of turtles at various ages… the little baby ones are hilarious.  Then you go down to the beach, where they have a few people get to release baby turtles. (not everyone in the group gets to do it, and if you want to DON’T put on sunscreen sinec you can’t touch the turtles if you have sunscreen on).  Laura got to do it and it was quite an experience for her… I have a picture, on my other computer, that I will get posted in the next couple of days.

After that they take you on a boat for about a half hour through a lagoon that is just busting with wildlife.. all sorts of birds, alligators, and Iguana’s, and beautiful scenery.  It was very relazing and cool too see.  Then they drive you out to a small village where there are few resorts and you get a free lunch (very tasty) and they let you just chill at the beach for a couple of hours… The water is so warm, it is like getting into a bath.   You can do a little shopping here too, and the vendors are much more respectful of your space and leave you alone unless you want to buy something.

All in all it was a great day, and much more then I expected from Manzanillo…

The last two sea days, were all about relaxing.  We played card during the day and sat in the lounges at night and listened to a great Jazz Trio called the Joseph Filipow Trio.  They were very very good, and my brother, being a musician, was enthralled by them.. Especially the bass player since he played a seven string bass.. If you don’t know why that is impressive, just know that it is.  I felt like they were wasted though by Carnival… The other entertainment on the ship was WAY sub par and they were FANTASTIC, yet they had the worst spot on the ship and it made it difficult to truly appreciate the talent.  They apparently don’t have a website… otherwise I would link to it…
Overall the trip was fun and relaxing and it has been difficult to readjust to normal life… I am still waiting for the towel animal on my bed, and no one has offered me a 5 course, 5 star meal yet… hmmm…

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Day four…

Saturday, January 13th, 2007

OK.. I know what your thinking… what happened to day three..  Well we were just having too much fun last night for me to take the time..  I figure that will happen tonight too since we are stopping in Acapulco in about 2 hours… The weather is hot hot hot… The sun is shining down and we are going to be cruising the streets of Acapulco
very soon..

Yesterday I did some laundry (got to stay clean), read for a few hours on the balcony of our stateroom, slept, and then after dinner we went out to the fantail bar (on the back end of the ship) and had some beer and good times.  The bartenders were hilarious, and we had an especially good time with Blake who is from St. Vincent.

So, today is shopping, walking, and great Mexican food… and probably some cervesas …

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Day 2… relaxation is beginning to set in..

Thursday, January 11th, 2007

I woke up this morning, on my own, just before the sun came up… went up to the lido deck with my mac, checked my email as the sun came up over the ocean.. very beautiful…

After breakfast, found the gym and got my exercise on while the boat rocked… the eliptical machine is much more interesting when the ship is rocking back and forth… LOL

This afternoon I conquered the waterslide…  The spirit has a really cool really high water slide.  It is pretty much the highet point on the entire ship and is a bit scary when you are up there, but you really get flying on it..

Here is a picture i found online .

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The water slide is on the back side… CRAZY!!!

Tonight is formal night, so I am going to be all gussied up while we eat…

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Bloggin’ from the boat…

Wednesday, January 10th, 2007

Yep.. It is January, and that means we are setting sail again.. Currently I am on the Lido deck of the Carnival Spirit en route to Acapulco.. It is a very crisp night so far, but once we cross the Mexican border (water border any way) we will have nice warm winds and sunny days to tan the skin…

A very nice new feature is the wi-fi access throughout the ship… :)

And here is a picture to make you all jealous… ;)

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