Who are her real parents?
I know that I will be asked this question sometime during the life of my child.
I hope that when the question is asked I have the composure and ability to answer the question as well as it was on “Heroes” last night. If you don’t watch the show, I won’t bore you with character and plot description, but suffice to say it is a great show. Anyway, Claire asks her adoptive father (who didn’t want her initially, but was forced into the adoption by the “company”) who her “real” parents are..
He says:
“We are your real parents. We don’t know who you’re biological parents are. You may not have grown in your mother’s belly, but you grew in both of our hearts.”.
I thought that was a great response. Especially considering it came from Hollywood, who is notorious for fouling this particular topic up..
SO, I add more item in which Heroes desrves kudos for. They have dealt with Claire’s adoption and how she deals with it VERY well.
The lesson? If you see an adoptive couple with a child, what question should you never ever ask ?
“Who are her/his real parents?” First off, if you need to ask that question, it is not likely any of your business… Secondly, you are looking at her/his real parents..
April 26th, 2007 at 11:23 am
hello….I am also an AAO family member, just returned on April 4 with our baby.
I noticed your blog for the first time today and the question….do you know who the real parents are?
My husband was adopted when he was 5 and its amazing, he still gets this question all the time.
As soon as the subject comes up that he is adopted, the first question is ‘Do you know who your parents are?’
I guess for some reason, people automatically think that because you are adopted you have an incredible desire to locate your birth parents. I think this is mostly because of how adoption is portrayed in Hollywood.
My husband actually has met his birth parents, his birth brother was the best man in our wedding. When he is asked if he knows his parents, he looks the person strait in the eye and says “Of course I know why my parents are, do you?”
They usually get the point and he isn’t being rude at all, he is just asking the same question that was asked of him.
jennifer
July 14th, 2007 at 5:52 pm
Thank you for sharing your story. We’ve been TTC for over a year and are looking into adoption now. Your insights are extremely helpful.