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Ruminations on the Wait…

Friday, November 10th, 2006

No matter how long, or short the “wait” is, I think it is brutal for those who are waiting. It gets even more brutal though, when the wait is something more of an enigma and this growing monster that makes you wonder if it will ever end.

Those of us who are waiting, meaning that you are LID and have nothing else to do but wait for the referral, are learning tough lessons about patience and disappointment. A lot of us, especially those of us who are in the June LID group, originally anticipated a 6 month or so wait. That means, that we would have been nearing a referral right now.

We are 5 months into the wait. AS it stands now, we still have another 12 months to wait. Not only is that twice what we thought it would be, but added to the 5 we have already waited it is 3 tiimes. A lot of the “waiting” parents get very upset about this. Not me though.

Don’t misunderstand. I can not even wait to go get my daughter and have her be a daily part of our life. I am not upset though, because I know when the time comes and I look into the eyes of the beautiful little girl who is now going to know me as Daddy, I will know that this wait helped bring us together.

It also makes this all seem a little more like pregnancy. A part of pregnancy and birth is chance. You conceive a child, and everything about that child, even the sex, is determined at the moment of conception. So for us, we have a more “sterile” and methodic process that we go through, but the varying wait times make it seem a little more chancy. I am not sure “chancy” is a word, but whatever.

I am SO wanting my daughter right now… I yearn for her, I imagine the time we will spend together, I see the smile on her face when I walk through the front door, I dream about going to the park, and to Disneyland, and having our freinds and family fawn over her, and realizing each and every day that she is my precious one, my baby, my little girl, my beloved one…

Of course, until then, I can wait, because I know that my precious one is out there, and that when the time comes, and they put that little girl into my arms that all this time spent waiting, and hoping and dreaming will have all been worth it, and I won’t even remember it.

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Still waiting….

Tuesday, October 31st, 2006

I feel for the people who are LID late last year and they wait and wait and wait. OF course, we have a similar problem. Most of our friends are aware that we have been waiting for a 4 – 5 months now. Back in June when we got our LID we told people, “Oh, it will be another year before we can expect a referral”.

Now, that 5 months have gone by, we are still saying “Oh, it will be another year before we can expect a referral.” It get’s old saying that.

SO… last day of October… bring on the referrals!!

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Our Backyard

Friday, September 8th, 2006

So, in the never ending battle to get the house ready for a child, we have decided to tackle the backyard…

A little history. We moved into this house about 2 years ago, from a house around the corner. We rent from a GREAT landlord who keeps the rent cheap as long as we take care of the place and pay the rent on time. Well, the house we are in now, had a famiily in it that tore the place apart. They had a huge pitbull in the backyard that they used for fighting.. It was so sad. We reported them a few times, but without proof they wouldn’t do anything about it.

They also used the backyard to grow marijuana… They had rows of corn, and in between the rows of corn were rows of marijuana… NICE neighbors.. We finally convinced the landlord to evict them and then moved in ourselves. We completely redid the entire inside of the house, part of the deal we made for the rent.

The backyard was mostly dirt, with some nasty grass towards the back. We spent about a year, wanting to do something about it, but never got around to it. Finally about 8 months ago, I decided it was time, so I went in the back and used round up to kill all the grass. Did that a few times over a couple of weeks, and then used a sod cutter to get all the grass out. SO then I had this completely dirt yard. much better.. LOL

The I marked off where I wanted to put the patio, got a shovel and dug a 4″ deep 15 X 15 foot area for the patio.. WOW. I am not designed for this type of work.. LOL

Well, then work picked up and other stuff got in the way and I just couldn’t get to the yard. About a month later the backyard was all weeds. Then a month after that the yard was weeds that are taller then I am. The dogs would run back in to the yard and just disappear. It was hilarious. We would just see the weeds rustling where they were running around. I am sure they loved it, but what we didn’t love were the fleas.. They were infested quick, so I had to deal with it. So I got a weedwacker and went after the weeds. It was great. I looked like the Terminator with that huge gun that shoots about 1000 bullets a second… 5 hours later, you could see the backyard again..

So another few weeks went by and I started talking to a friend of mine who does landscaping. He says, “alright, were doing this. Get your stuff together and this weeked we are hitting it.”.

So over the next month we got the rest of the weeds out , took out the old cement slab (a 6 x 6 2″ slab that was just poured on top of the ground. I lifted it up and hit it with a sledge and it broke into about 30 peices..). I borrowed a tiller from a friend of mine and we tilled the ground up and put down some top soil, and then tilled that into the ground.

At that point we had a great area for the sod to go down on, but first we needed to put sprinklers in. So in 4 hours we trenched the area and laid all the pvc pipe and 9 sprinkler heads connected to two valves. In the front main section we have 4 sprinklers that shoot about 20 feet. They are in the corners and cover the whole front section of the yard. Then in the back corner we have 5 heads that cover that section. The patio area is not touched… so cool.. We could actually sit on the patio with the sprinklers going without getting wet at all. ( I imagine hot summer days, me sitting on the patio under the canopy drinking a beer, while my little girl runs in circles playing in the sprinklers… ahhh the good life.)

In my next post, I will tell you all about the nightmare that is ordering pavers from Lowes online….

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Are we there yet?

Sunday, July 23rd, 2006

You have heard that before….

Since we are done with the paper chase and have started the “wait” for our referral, we will likely be heard saying that quite a bit.

So in the next months while we wait for our baby to arrive, we will be remodeling the house, going on a trip (maybe) and redoing our back yard.

So in our first step to better our living space we have purchased a wardrobe for Laura to use in our bedroom… I am going to post about the escapades shortly.